A Sibling Connection
Today I spoke to my brother. Nothing remarkable in that I know.
What I enjoyed about that call is that my brother was asking for my help. With something he was upset about. He hadn’t slept much the night before as it was eating away at him.
So he called his big sis for advice.
How lovely to feel I have advice that is worth listening to!
What I didn’t know is that today is National Siblings Day, who knew? I know we have Mothers Day, Fathers Day and Grandparents Day but Siblings Day? Never heard of it.
Should we have a siblings day? It kinda rounds things off a bit in terms of immediate family all having their own day so why not?
I am not about to start sending cards to my siblings or arranging celebratory meals with them. But you know its quite nice to step back and just have a little think about the fact that I have siblings.
Siblings who want my advice, who want to stay connected to me. How lucky am I?
Why do we have National Siblings Day?
National Siblings Day was started by Claudia Evart because she lost both her siblings early on in her life. I am sure she isn’t the only person to have lost siblings.
You may not have any siblings, being an only child. I am sure being an only child can be a great experience but it doesn’t provide you with siblings.
Something that you probably replicate very successfully with a great friendship circle.
I am incredibly lucky in that I haven’t suffered a bereavement of any family member closer than a grandparent yet.
My family have had brushes with cancer, ill-health and marriage breakdowns but not yet the death of a sibling, child or parent.
I am so very grateful for that.
My brother probably thinks I am mad because an hour after speaking to him I sent him a message wishing him a Happy Siblings Day.
In case he thought I truly had lost the plot I felt I had to send him a follow up message. Explaining I wasn’t just randomly scouring the internet because I had nothing to do. I was working on something that meant this popped up.
He doesn’t know I have started this blog so couldn’t mention it came about because of that.
(I found out it was National Siblings Day because I was testing out Google Trends for the very first time. National Siblings Day is trending today at no.2. Ben & Jerrys offering free ice cream has the no. 1 spot.)
If only there was a B&J near me!
Having siblings gives you friends who don’t judge you and find you wanting. My brother may not want to live the life I have and may choose very different lifestyle choices but he is my brother.
And he is always there for me when I get myself into a pickle. So yes, I have phoned him after sleepless nights and sought out his advice.
And boy did he make me feel a whole lot better.
He has no intention of retiring early nor wants to live a frugal life but he respects that those are my life choices. He probably thinks I am a slightly mad country bumpkin but hey, you can’t choose family!
Siblings don’t sugar coat things. They don’t tell you what they think you want to hear. They’ll tell you if you are wrong or out of order. And for that reason getting their advice can be so valuable.
They’ll tell you how it is, usually in the nicest possible way. But not always! Ah the joys of family.
So, my brother called me and sought my advice. And I was able to do that for him and give him advice and a bit of background.
Hopefully get him to see why the issue is an issue in this instance and is probably only a symptom not the root cause. And provide him with reassurance that you know, its going to be ok.
Of course because he’s my brother I did have to point out that he hasn’t done something for me that he said he would do. It’s a minor thing and I know he’ll get his backside in gear eventually.
But I am his sister after all and am not going to be that nice to him!!
Happy Siblings Day bro!
Why not speak to your siblings today and see how they’re doing?